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Introduction

The internet could be a better place for discourse. This is a reference guide on antipatterns in replies; unproductive expressions that aren't conducive to pleasant, productive, and focused discussion.

Each pattern includes:

  • Examples of what it looks like
  • Why it isn't productive
  • Better alternatives

The goal is to make online conversations more productive, one reply at a time. We recognize that this guide isn't applicable to many online spaces and nor should it be applicable in all online spaces.

How to Use These​

If you see one of these patterns in an online discussion (including your own comments), these pages can help redirect things constructively.

When linking to a pattern:

  • Stay respectful and assume good intent
  • Focus on the conversation pattern, not the person
  • Pair it with engagement on the actual topic
  • Remember that you're trying to improve the discussion, not score points

Example: Instead of just dropping a link, you might say: "I think we might be talking past each other here. This pattern describes what I'm seeing. On the actual question about X, I think..."

Who This Is For​

Self-improvement​

Reading patterns to recognize and improve your own discourse habits in online discussions.

Constructive response​

Politely linking to patterns when you see antipatterns in Reddit threads, HN comment sections, Twitter threads, and other online forums.

Observer learning​

Understanding what makes online conversations go sideways, whether on social media or discussion boards.

What Success Looks Like​

When someone gets linked to a pattern in an online discussion, ideally:

  • They understand the issue without feeling attacked
  • The conversation gets back on track
  • Other participants learn from the example